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Romantic Movie Alternatives

3/6/2015

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Since the release of the Fifty Shades movies, I have found myself increasingly frustrated with the lack of movies that really teach what love really is. Most romantic movies today are either inappropriate, because they concentrate too much on the physical side of love, or they are unrealistic, because they concentrate too much on the emotional side of love. Many are in both camps. And from the perspective of a Christian, I believe that many of these films are an insult to the way that God designed love and romance. But we view them as merely “entertainment” or “romantic comedies.” Now, I’m not saying that we can’t enjoy some of these movies within reason, but they should not be where we learn to define love or where we should find edification for our relationships. It's rare to find movies that do either of these jobs correctly.

To help with this problem, I have come up with a list of five romantic movies that do a much better job of portraying love and relationships as God intended it. Each one has different concepts about love that defy the cultural expectations of what it is meant to be. I don’t want to spoil these movies if you haven’t seen them, but I want to highlight the different aspect of love they emphasize.

Old Fashioned – Love that is Chivalrous

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This is a new movie that was released on Valentine’s Day this year on a limited release. It was one of the best movies I have seen on the subject in a long time. The main quality of love that was emphasized in this movie was one of chivalry. Clay is the epitome of a gentleman. He wants to get to know her and respect her as a person before he falls in love with her. He wants to keep their relationship pure and above reproach. In the process of learning more about each other, Amber also comes to respect him. Everyone labels his ways as “old fashioned,” but maybe these ways are something we should consider bringing back.
Our culture tries to sell us romance that has very little respect or courtesy involved. Love and the fuzzy feelings come first, then you figure out how you relate to each other. This should not be. The respect needs to come first and be part of the foundation on which the relationship is built. If it’s not in the foundation of the relationship, it very difficult to put it in later. Old Fashioned reminds us how to put that into the foundation of a relationship, and is a great movie, especially if you are dating or married. I would recommend it to teens and adults. 

The Song – Love that is Passionate and Forgiving

This movie just came out on DVD. It's about a second generation country singer named Jed King and his wife Rose, but it's really a modern take on the life of King Solomon. This movie took a different approach to this topic than is often taken in Christian films, but it is a reality of the struggles in marriage relationships and in life. (I love the fact that one of the men that instigated this project graduated from Ozark Christian College! Go Kyle Idleman! haha) There are two points made about love in this movie that stand out from the rest.

First, we learn is that love is passionate. This movie shows more implied sex scenes than most Christian films (not in an inappropriate way by any means), but it is a reminder than in marriage, God wants a husband and a wife to have great sex! They emphasize the passion and love that is portrayed in Songs of Solomon, and how beautiful it is between a husband and a wife. 
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However, it should not be the foundation of what the relationship is about. Movies and books like Fifty Shades portray sex as the primary source of character development. How messed up is that? Aside from inappropriate implications, sex isn't the only way we should get to know someone! If your spouse is only there to fulfill a sexual need, then there’s a problem. The Song portrays the consequences of this, but gives hope in the end about how to restore it.

We also learn that love forgives. Even if you haven’t seen the movie, most people know that Solomon messed up big time when it came to relationships. One point in which the film differs from the original story is that Jed and Rose have reconciliation at the end of the movie. I won’t reveal exactly how for those that haven’t seen it, but it is a beautiful picture of the forgiveness that God gave us through His Son. The Song is a great Christian film that I would recommend (although it may not be as appropriate for children).

Fireproof – Love that Endures the Fire

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One of my favorite romantic films of all time, Fireproof is about a fireman (played by Kirk Cameron) close to divorce being challenged by his father to complete the Love Dare, a 40 day challenge written in a book. This film has been instrumental is restoring many marriages, thanks to the ministry of Sherwood pictures. There are so many things that could be gleaned from this movie, even if you aren't married. But I want to focus on one.

According to this movie, real love has the ability to endure trials. In the movie, Caleb Holt learns that you never leave your partner, especially in a fire, and that being fireproof doesn't mean a fire will never come, but that when it does come, you will be able to withstand it. 
Those who are married shouldn't have to divorce because just don’t love each other or they can't get along anymore. During those kinds of trials, they have to purpose themselves to love each other, even if the other one don’t deserve to be loved. That’s what Christ did for us. When we are aware of how much Christ loved us, it compels us to love others in the same way, especially spouses and families. Fireproof is an excellent reminder of this truth and I would recommend this movie to anyone.

Love Comes Softly – Love that Grows Over Time

This is a slightly lesser known movie, but a wonderful story about God bringing beauty out of tragedy. Set in late 19th century, Marty Claridge (played by Katherine Heigl) loses her husband shortly after they arrive at their land out West, just before winter. After the funeral, a widower named Clark Davis offers to shelter her for the winter, if they marry and if she helps teach and take care of his daughter Missy. She hesitantly agrees out of necessity, and they lives in separate quarters. Marty has a difficult time adjusting to life with Clark and Missy, with the strangeness of being married to someone else and the struggles of relating to his daughter. But as the title implies, time proves to change Marty's heart.
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Love Comes Softly teaches its title as the main moral. Despite the popular romances we love in our favorite chick flicks, love develops over time. It does not happen instantly. I personally don’t believe that “love at first sight” really exists in romance. I believe in attraction at first sight, but that is not enough to merit a romance. Love is something that grows over time if you choose to work on it, because its a decision, not a feeling. Sometimes, you might be working on it when you don’t realize it. But it’s something that has to be worked on, not something that you can fall in or out of. It’s a matter a choice. Love Comes Softly is a great example of this and I would recommend it to anyone 

The Swan Princess – Love that Endures a Lifetime

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I might get a few laughs for this one, but I wanted to talk about it for two reasons. First, this is one of the best fairy tales in its portrayal of love to be made to date, in my opinion. Second, it’s an alternative option for kids to learn what love is. In The Swan Princess, Princess Odette is trapped as a swan in an evil spell by the enchanter Rothbart, and hidden at a lake far away. Everyone thinks that Odette is dead, but Prince Derek refuses to give up. Derek and Odette individually vow to remain loyal to each other and to find one another, no matter what it takes. And when they do, it becomes one of the most beautiful love stories ever told.
What I love about this movie is not the happily ever after, but the fact that they declare that their love for each other will endure longer than life itself. That's powerful! The love they have for each other is not conditional on the other’s actions, but on the vow that they made to love each other, no matter what. The feature song of the film, Far Longer Than Forever, is a powerful reminder of the comfort and peace one can find in knowing that the one you love has an enduring loyalty to you and you alone. You can't find that in the fuzzy romance or the physical intimacy of a relationship. That’s what makes The Swan Princess stand out from all other fairy tales. This is a film I would recommend to anyone.

Real Romance

Our culture has sold us so many versions of love that are messed up, we have brought into them. The couples that are so popular from our favorite chick flicks are usually in relationships that are about the fulfillment of personal needs – physical, emotional, spiritual, or a combination. Even if they are “in love,” it is often more about fulfilling the personal need than about the other’s needs. It becomes a love that is very selfish in its nature. To me, it's very disheartening.

The characters in these five movies are different. They are the ones that learned to give up themselves for the one they loved. They all made mistakes to get there, but through their trials and adventures, they learned to love the other as only Christ could through them, and that is so much more beautiful than any romance our culture tries to sell us. As we watch these and other romantic movies, let us do our best to praise those that portray love as God intended it, and discern when love is not portrayed correctly. Hopefully, it will change the way we see everything.

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​Bethel Grove is a Christian young woman who loves to read and write, eat Reese's Peanut Butter Cup Blizzards, and disciple teen girls as a youth leader. What started as a hobby of writing book reviews and doing deep biblical studies eventually led her down the path of self-publishing and helping other Christian authors launch their books. She hopes to someday be a vocational youth minister and well-known author.
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