I was originally given this book by my mom when I was senior in high school. At the time, I didn’t really read books that were not assigned for class, so I eventually put it away in a book and forgot about it. I didn’t think about it again until I found myself teaching a teen girl Bible study on the topic of biblical womanhood. That’s when I decided to do my research and read up on all the books I could find on this subject, specifically ones that address teen girls. That’s when I remembered this book. I pulled it out of the box and realized that the message of this book was an important one for girls to understand. I must confess that this book was not the most enjoyable read. This book can be hard to digest at times and some of her perspectives come across in a harsh way, but I still think this message has power, if you are ready to embrace it ~ Bethel
The world’s perception of what it means to be a real woman is so messed up, and most people don’t even realize how messed up it is. So many women today are settling into just “fitting into the crowd” when it comes to how they live their lives as women. Many Christian women even fall into the trap of following the crowd and giving into peer pressure. They want to fit it and be just like everyone else, but in truth, they are feeling lost and unfulfilled in the process. All the while, they are missing out on the potential that God has from them in living as a woman set apart for Him. They don’t even realize that there’s something better out there because of how deep the lives have become embedded in our culture. But there is something better out there, better than the lies the culture has fed you. It makes us ask the question: how can I set apart my womanhood to honor the Lord in our culture today?
In Leslie Ludy’s book, Set-Apart Femininity, you are given a message different from any other you’ve heard about what it means to be a girl. Ludy offers you a fresh perspective of God’s incredible design for women, and offers a life of fulfillment in Jesus that is completely countercultural. It’s a radical call to abandon the culture’s version of womanhood and live a life that stands out from the crowd, one that loves like Jesus loves, no matter what the cost. Although her views of our culture and American Christianity are somewhat harsh in their nature, she makes powerful points about how one of the reasons we are being held back from this set apart life is because of self-focused thinking that is so prevalent in the American culture today. She doesn’t cut to the chase about anything, she just explains everything up front. She shares many stories from her own life and previous books, as well as stories and examples of Christian women of the past who lived out a radical version of femininity as missionaries in their day in age. This message is very personal to the author, and that passion is very clearly communicated in its pages.
This book is not for every teenage girl or adult young woman. It’s for the ones that long for more than our culture’s version of femininity has to offer. It’s for the ones that don’t mind living differently from the rest of the world, no matter the cost. It’s for the ones that would be willing to give up anything for the sake of Christ. If this sounds like you, then you can find a copy from most major book distributors today.
Personal Rating. I personally found this book hard to process. Some of her opinions came across as harsh. She quoted herself in her other books a lot, which was confusing if you haven't read them. Some of her methods are kind of out of date. I personally don't think this book is for everyone. I don't really recommend it
This book has had a profound impact on my life, and on my ability to live out my life as a Christian woman. Ever since the first time I read it in junior high, I have continued to find ways in which the teachings of this book have influenced by spiritual walk. In fact, I recently realized that I own every edition of this book that has ever been released. This book helped develop a passion within me to share and declare God’s truth of the subject of modesty. I also came to have a love and respect for the author, Dannah Gresh. Although I have read and been challenged by many of her books, this one left its greatest mark. Because of the seed that was planted in my heart with the teachings of this book, I eventually came to write a sermon on modesty that’s on YouTube, teach my first Bible study through this book, and even write a spoken word poem on modesty. The journey I’ve been on to understand the delicate power of modesty has been an incredible one, and one that I encourage every Christian girl and young women to go on. If you want to know more about this book, just ask ~ Bethel
Modesty. It’s a word that tend to make a woman cringe. It immediately invokes images of women wearing frock dresses, knitting their life away as an old maid. Many women find it easier to ignore what they know about the decency of clothing and instead want to use their body to their advantage to get attention or approval. They think it will fulfill them, but it usually ends up leaving them feeling used and empty. And most of time, they don’t know why. Sometimes, Christian girls know about modesty, but they end up being so in love with fashion or with the approval of others that they ride the modesty fence, dressing just modest enough for their parents’ approval, but having their hearts in the fashions everyone else is wearing. Everyone is so busy listening to the voices of our culture telling them how to fit it, they don’t even take the time to understand what modesty is really all about and why it’s important. They don’t even begin to take God’s perspective into consideration. It leaves us to ask the questions: what is modesty? And is modesty really that relevant to my life today?
In Dannah Gresh’s popular book, The Secret Keeper, you learn that modesty is not only relevant in our world today, but that there is delicate power within it, one that can be used for God’s glory. In this short but powerful book, Dannah leads you through an incredible journey of understanding this power, as well as helping you understand God’s purpose in this power. Plus she gives tips for how to check your outfits to make sure they are modest with some fashion tests. In the process of learning about your wardrobe reflects, you begin to understand that modesty is not just about what you wear; it’s a lifestyle that reflects your heart and your attitude. It becomes an expression of your obedience to the Lord. Coming to this understanding will change the way you see everything around you, if you fully embrace it. In a day and age where modesty isn’t valued or even acknowledged by the culture as a whole, Dannah’s teachings, packed with God’s truth, are needed now more than ever.
If you want to know more about modesty and are ready to take God’s truth about the way we dress seriously, this is book for you. Whether you’re teen or pre-teen girl that is just trying to learn what God says about it, or you’re a young adult women who hasn’t studied on this subject before, this book is the perfect place to start. Get your copy today!
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