When I first heard that Jackie Hill Perry was coming out with a book, I was so excited. I had already been exposed to her testimony when I first read the book Messy Grace and researched some of the resources that went with it. I already knew that her story demonstrated the power of God’s redeeming grace and wanted to know more. When I finally got around to reading it, I could not put it down. I finished it in a single day. Even if you don’t struggle with same sex attraction, most of us can find ways to relate her story to our own. This is a book I highly recommend to practically anyone ~ Bethel
In her first book, Gay Girl, Good God, Jackie Hill Perry shares her incredible testimony of God’s redeeming grace as he helped her overcome her struggles with same sex attraction. A childhood including an inactive father and abuse at the hands of someone she trusted, brokenness was a theme of the early part of her life. This eventually result in her pursuing same sex relationships, embracing masculinity instead of womanhood, and drug abuse. But one night, while she was home alone watching TV, God got a hold of her heart. Without a church or a preacher, God revealed to her that her sin would be her death and that she needed to repent and change her ways. And that’s exactly what she did. She broke up with her girlfriend, slowly started to change her clothes, and started going to church. She eventually met and married Preston Perry, a man who also had brokenness in his past. They are now the parents of two little girls. Although Jackie knows that struggles with temptation will be an ongoing battle, she also knows that power of God’s grace in her life, if we choose to pursue. She also addresses working through same sex attraction from a biblical perspective. Jackie’s testimony is powerful and moving and her insights into living in victory over sin is something that everyone can relate to. Aside from its biblically grounded perspective on same sex attraction, the story of the redemption in Jackie’s life makes this a book that I would recommend to practically anyone. Get your copy today!
To read more about the subject of a Christian's response to same sex attraction, check out my review of the book Messy Grace by clicking here
As I was a part of the launch for their last book a year ago (Love Defined), I heard they were planning on releasing another book this year. But I admit I was surprised when I heard about the topic. Not because I didn’t think they would do a great job, but because it was very closely related to the subject of their last book. Not to mention that I have read many books on the subject over the years, I was curious if they would be able to provide a newer perspective for a generation of young women who don’t want to do when it comes to the subject of biblical sexuality. But in the end, I was not disappointed. What I found I liked the best about the book is that it doesn’t feel like some purity books that are written by older women that give lists of do’s and don’ts. This was written in a friendly tone by sisters who feel like they are your big sisters, trying to help you understand what to do with this confusing topic in an honest and vulnerable way. I am so grateful that that Kristen and Bethany were willing to address this topic, and that they remind us that even though we have all experienced some form of sexual brokenness, God can and will redeem all of it in His time for His glory. If a girl is the right age (see my ratings at the end of the review), this is a book I would definitely recommend ~ Bethel
Purity. It’s made to feel like a dirty word in our culture, because it is something that our culture refuses to honor. And even those of us that try to honor it eventually come to realize that the impurity of the culture around us has seeped into our hearts and minds. We have a hard trying to wrap our minds around the topics of purity and sexuality in a God-honoring way, but we are afraid to ask the questions that will help us find answers and freedom. We are scared that we are the only one that has questions or struggles, so we clam up and are left in fear. It makes us ask the question: how can I learn the truth about God-defined sexuality?
In their newest book, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart, sisters Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal help us find the beauty and freedom that comes from choosing to pursue God-honoring sexuality. Helping us see that we all have experienced sexual brokenness and struggles with lust, they help us identify where our culture has steered us wrong by identifying four lies about our sexual design and challenging us to replace them with truths from God’s word about the way He designed our sexuality. They offer tools for combating temptations and the battles within your mind and take time to address many specific questions about “hush hush” topics and questions that they asked their readers during a survey. And finally, they help us see that God has help us walk the path of freedom from past and present struggles with our sexuality, helping all of us see that God can redeem anything in His time, including our sexuality, if we choose to walk in faith and surrender to Him. This book is much needed and powerful. It’s the kind of book I wished I had as a teenager. Kristen and Bethany are honest and relevant in their writing style, and have a genuine heart to help girls and women get back to the women God intended them to be. This is a book that I recommend to women and girls about 16 and older. Get your copy today!
*I received a copy of this book from the publisher as part of my involvement in the book's launch team and for the purpose of this review
Teen Rating. The reason I am giving it a lower rating in this category is that I would struggle to recommend this book to a younger teenager. I think that some of the topics discussed could cause a loss of some innocence if she is not to that level of maturity (I am not mentioning these topics by name for concern about teens that may read this review). But at the same time, I do recognize that these topics are completely and totally necessary to discuss. I would recommend it for girls about 16 or older. For teens 15 or younger, I would recommend Bethany and Kristen's last book, Love Defined, as a better starting point for their age
When I first heard they were updating this book as well as the teen counterpart, I was curious about it. But I originally only pursued reviewing Lies Young Women Believe (co-authored by Dannah Gresh). After some time and research, I was excited to discover that they now have a male counterpart (Lies Men Believe by Robert Wolgemuth) and are about to release a pre-teen counterpart too (Lies Girls Believe by Dannah Gresh). Since there are so many other books in the series and the topic is so close to my heart, I decided it was time to read the book that started it all. When I finally started reading it, I couldn’t put it down. Literally. I finished the 300 page book in one night. I found myself in love with Nancy’s sincerity and passion for helping women of all ages be freed from the lies that hold them back from the life God has in store for them. Although there are a few lies I struggle with myself, I also found that through many recent experiences, some of these lies that used to hold me back no longer have a hold in my life. That made reading this book a milestone in my spiritual journey. It has also helped me strengthen my ability to identify lies for what they are so they have be replaced with truth. I am now looking forward to reading more books by Nancy in the future, as well as other books in the series.
In our culture today, we are constantly being fed lies. Lies about ourselves, lies about God, lies about identity and our relationships with others. These are just the beginning of a list that could fill a whole book in its own right. They cause us to live our lives apart from what God has in store for us in light of His truth. Although everyone regardless of age or gender deals with lies, some many of the lies prevalent in our society are directed at women both young and old. So many of the lies we believe can be as a result of deception from our own emotions or our struggles with shame. Either way, it makes us harder for those of us that are trying to lives our lives in light of the truth, when these lies make it difficult to distinguish the truth from the lies. It makes women ask the question: how can I identify and stand up under the lies that I am believing?
In the updated version of the bestselling book, Lies Women Believe, Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth explores many of the lies that women believe so that they can discover the truth that sets from free. Identifying with the first woman to be deceived, Nancy encourages women to identity that the lies they have believed are holding them back from the life God has in store for them. After giving some methods for identifying the lies, Nancy walks through a total of 45 different lies believed by women based on surveys. Some of the lies are ones we wouldn’t necessarily say out loud, but have proven to be believed by many of our actions. She includes sections about lies we believe about God, ourselves, our sin, priorities, marriage, children, emotions, and circumstances. There is also a newly added chapter about sexuality that was written by Dannah Gresh (who co-authored Lies Young Women Believe with Nancy). Nancy discusses the root of these lies and with both love and conviction tells us the truth as it is laid out in God’s word. She doesn’t shy away from the difficulties of addressing these deep-seated lies but instead chooses to help the reader root them out in God’s grace so they can live in the freedom of the truth. At the conclusion, Nancy shares an incredible list of truth to combat the lies she addresses, including Scriptures to help you absorb the truth. I appreciate the honesty and integrity of Nancy to stand up for the truth in a society that struggles to distinguish truth from lies, as well as the heart she has for the women she helps. If you are women, either single or married, either young or old, this is a book worth reading. Get your copy today.
*I received a copy from the publisher for the purpose of this review
Teen Rating. This book might be difficult for a teen to process. Most of the chapters about marriage and children are irrelevant to teens. Although a mature older teen could read this book a get a lot of it, I would recommend Lies Young Women Believe as more relevant alternative. I personally think this book should be reserved for those 18 and older.
To check out my review of the teen version, Lies Young Women Believe, click here
Male-Friendly Rating. Although some of the issues described in here are a little personal, I think that some men, particularly those in ministry, could benefit from at least familiarizing themselves with the lies Nancy discusses. If any men are interested in a version relevant to them, I recommend checking out Lies Men Believe by Robert Wolgemuth
Singles-Friendly Rating. Considering that Nancy was single when she wrote the original version of this book, it is mostly written in such a way as to be relevant to women regardless of their season of life. Although the sections on marriage and children may be a little irrelevant, they are still useful for helping single women understand the struggles of married women. I look forward to rereading those sections if/when I get married
I first heard about this book when my Facebook friend and book launch guru (Anna LeBaron, author of The Polygamist’s Daughter) shared about the book launch she was leading. At first, I thought the title sounded weird. But the more I heard about it, the more I was interested. It finally got the point that I was dying to read it, so I got it around my birthday. In the end, I was not disappointed and instantly knew why this book has become a New York Times bestseller. Rachel is fun and quirky, but also honest and vulnerable with her audience. She never tells you to do anything, but speaks from her own experience and allows that to help the reader along their own personal journey. That was enough for me, because I found that some of my experiences mirrored hers. And when they didn’t, she shares what happened in a way that’s relatable. Although I would limit the recommendations of this book to a certain audience, I personally really enjoyed the book and will use it to help me overcome lies in the future. I hope you can too ~ Bethel
Lies. Lies surround us in our culture. Lies about who we are, what we can be, and what others perceive of us. The more we see these lies disguised as truth, the more likely it is that we will just accept that as truth. This seems to be especially true for women in our society today, with the air-brushed versions of womanhood we see plastered across billboards in Times Square. Believing these lies about our identity aren’t just bad, they are dangerous. They will hinder us from living our lives to the fullest and being the women that God wants us to be. They can steal our joy, our hope, our families, and our future. We can even let these lies define us and our identity. If makes us ask the question: how can I stop believing the lies about who I am?
In her New York Times Bestseller, Girl, Wash Your Face, Rachel Hollis shares lies that she believed about herself so that her readers can identify them and make the choice to become who there were meant to be. Each chapter addresses one of these lies. Unlike other books in the self-help category, she break down how these lies became prevalent in our culture or share a bunch of statistics to make you change your perspective. Instead, she shares the good, the bad, and the ugly from her own life experiences, shared what she learned along the way, then she concludes each chapter with things that helped her overcome each given lie. From marriage to motherhood, from writing to weight management and so much in between, Rachel covers it all in a way that is honest and accessible. Although it’s subtle in its presentation, her faith is evident throughout the stories that have become her life. With her faith as a foundation, it becomes clear how she learned to overcome the lies she had believed for so long and it makes it clear that you can learn to do the same. This book is a powerful call-up call that is hard to ignore. It’s calling women of my generation to stop wallowing in the lies to hold them back and to replace them with truth. It’s a reminder that we have the power to change these perceptions for ourselves. It’s a chance to have a new beginning even after we’ve faced pain and difficulties. It gives us hope that we can become women who stand in our faith against all odds. It’s exactly what this generation of women need. Women young and old need to read this book, especially if you are married with kids. Get your copy today!
Teen Rating. This book is geared specifically towards married women with kids. Chapter 7 is heavy on the sexual content, to the point that I would not recommend any teen to read that chapter. There is a few curse words used (one use of h*** and one use of p***). She also talks about her older brother’s suicide and struggles with drinking. If chapter 7 is skipped, a mature teen (16 or 17) could read the rest of the book and get a lot out of it.
Singles-Friendly Rating. Although I did get a lot out of the book, I was disappointed that this book didn’t do more to appeal to single women. I understand that Rachel was speaking out of her own experience, but I think that more could have been done to appeal to women who have never been married and don’t have kids. However, most of the lies she addresses do speak to those who aren’t married. I would still recommend it to single gals, but I would do so with the suggestion that they skip chapter 7 (which personally made me very uncomfortable)
My mom had talked about Chapman’s original book about the five love languages since I was young. But it was only recently that I discovered that there was a version written specifically to single adults. When I found out about it, I was so excited to read it. When I finally got it, I couldn’t put it down. I finished it in two days. These concepts about love languages are something that every person needs to read. But I believe it’s especially significant to learn this in your singles years, because it will build into any future dating relationships and in marriage. I absolutely recommend this to any of my single friends, and for anyone that isn’t single, there is probably an edition of this book written for you. Do a little research and get it. You won’t regret it ~ Bethel
Love is expressed is many different ways, but these expressions don’t always mean the same thing to different people. Something that is meaningful to one person may not be to another. This can make it hard for us to figure out how to best express love. This doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships. This can make things difficult for all relationships: family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, roommates, and the list could go on. It’s so hard to know how to relate well to each other when we struggle to express love in a way that others can relate to. This can seem to be an especially hard struggle for single adults, especially those who haven’t ever been married. It makes us ask the question: how can I learn to love others better as a single adult?
In his book, The 5 Love Languages (Singles Edition), Gary Chapman walks us through the five “languages” in which all human communicate love, and how singles can apply these love languages to all relationships in our lives. Some feel most loved through words of affirmation. Some feel and express love best through receiving or giving gifts. Some feel most loved through acts of service. Some feel loved through spending quality time with those they care about. And some feel and express love best through physical touch. Out of each of these languages, everyone has a primary love language in which makes them feel the most loved. But understanding and learning to communicate all five are important for us to find ways to love others more. Chapman walks through what these love languages look like lived out with parents and siblings, as well as those that may be looking toward romantic relationships in the future. He also talks about relating to roommates, classmates, and coworkers. He even walks through single parents loving their children better. All of this is presented in friendly and relevant writing style that anyone can understand. These truths about love languages are profound, especially in a day and age when we are quick to make things about ourselves. But this book is a great tool to help us reach out beyond our own love language into the other languages so that we can love others the way that Christ did. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is currently single, or anyone who wants to figure out how to relate to singles better. If you don’t fit into those categories, there is probably an edition of this book written for you. Get your copy today!
* I received a copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of this review
Teen Rating. This book could be read by a teen, but the main reason I am giving this rating is because there is a teen edition of this book that I would recommend they check out before this one. Although it doesn’t discuss anything inappropriate, I personally think this book is better saved for those that are college-age or older
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